8 Tips to cope when depression creeps back into your life

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Relapsing into depression can start out slowly—you might feel off, then your optimism seems to disappear and everything feels pointless again. The days drag on. Minuscule tasks feel like huge projects that suck the life out of you. You might waste all of your free time laying in bed as you stare at your phone. Or maybe you isolate yourself and stop following through on plans. Whatever you do, the depression you’d worked so hard to get rid of is back. And even though you’ve dealt with depression once before, it seems impossible to help yourself and battle another round.

I’VE BEEN THERE. MORE THAN ONCE. IT SUCKS. 

I wrote in an old journal once—during my first relapse, that the relapse felt worse than the initial depression I’d had before treatment. That’s because for me, the recovery and subsequent relapse felt like a tease. For once in my life—I didn’t wake up every day feeling cynical, resentful and hopeless. I didn’t feel like a failure or feel ashamed of myself. I was content with each present moment, I was grateful for myself and I looked forward to my future. And then somehow, it was all gone and I was sucked back into what I can only describe as darkness. 

RECOVERY IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION. 

The following list—along with therapy, is what I do to help myself get back on track in my recovery. It’s always a slow, gradual process and I have to push myself. Even when—especially when, I’d rather wallow in it. Ultimately, defeating depression is worth every struggle and I’ll do it again whenever I have to. 
All of these tips might not be right for everyone (except for the first one—that’s essential!) because we’re all different and we all feel depression differently. At the very least, my hope is these tips will spark some motivation in you and help you come up with your own tips for yourself. 
Some of these tips may also help if you’re suffering with depression for the first time. 
Talk with your doctor/therapist/psychiatrist/etc.
Don’t wait on this to see if you’ll “get over it” yourself. If you feel shame like I did, don’t let that stop you. Knowing when to ask for help—even if it’s for the second, third or fourth time is a sign of strength. Not weakness. The longer you wait, the worse it could get. 
Release it. 
Keeping your feelings bottled up will only make you feel more isolated, more hopeless and more depressed. Reach out to people you trust. Join a support group or an online community. Start a journal or a personal blog. Whatever you feel most comfortable with, do. Just don’t keep what you’re feeling or thinking in.  
Write a list of 3-5 small, realistic short term goals.
Make these goals as reachable as possible and adjust them to match the stage of depression you’re in. For example, don’t write down a full blown meal plan if you’ve been struggling to leave the house and one of your long term goals is to lose weight. Nurture yourself and take it slow so you don’t overwhelm yourself with unrealistic expectations. Start small. For example, aim to eat one serving of fruit a day for just one week. Whatever your goals are once you achieve one, move down the list to the next one. Go slow, but don’t give up. Baby steps. It’s a process, not a race. 
Celebrate all of your victories.
Every time you achieve one of the goals you’ve set, congratulate and/or reward yourself. Don’t downplay your achievements and wallow in a negative mindset. Depression is hard. Recovering is even harder. Give yourself credit. 
Take it day by day. 
Don’t think about the future, even two weeks from now. Thinking of the bigger picture is great when you’re in a mentally stronger place but during a relapse, it’s better to look at the small accomplishments and get yourself through the present moment. This is the time to nurture your mind and give yourself a break. You wouldn’t attempt to run the day after you sprain your ankle so don’t feel frustrated with yourself if you’re not progressing or achieving your goals in the pace you want. Your mind needs just as much care as a physical injury. 
Distract yourself and stay as busy as you can manage without getting overwhelmed.
Do something you typically enjoy, even if you’re not feeling too enthusiastic about it in the moment. Read a book, go on a walk, visit a friend or invest some time into an old or new hobby. 
Spark your creativity and get inspired. 
Take photos, listen to music, write a song or poem, paint or draw a picture, go on Pinterest and find a hair tutorial or a craft or use it for inspiration to redecorate your room. 
Remember what you’ve done in recovery up until this point and reflect on how far you’ve come. 
Think about the times you overcame the smaller struggles in life and how they impacted your recovery overall. Write it all down, make it your story and leave space to write about this next battle once you’ve made it through. You’re stronger than you think. Believe in yourself.

I’ve relapsed twice after battling depression for ten years. One thing I’ll never do is give up and neither should you. Life is too short and too valuable. If you’re suffering, please get yourself help. 



Hey! I’m Sarah Rose, a recovering bulimic and former depressed soul. I’m also the gal who runs Discern, Describe—my personal development & lifestyle blog for girls looking to build confidence, find inner peace and have stronger relationships. Sign up for the 7 Weeks to Happiness email series and get weekly mini challenges, trackers & over 20 worksheets here.

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