25 Things I Learned By 25


In the months leading up to my 24th birthday, I used to joke that I could feel my frontal lobe developing as I got another year closer to the quarter life mark. What I meant to say was that I could feel myself maturing—my mindset was slowly changing, my reactions were slowing down. I started handling problems differently. I realized I didn’t know all the answers and I had no clue what I was doing. Turning 25 really did have a huge impact on me as a woman.

I started wanting better for myself so I made personal growth and self development a priority. This was the same time I went through a crisis that forever changed my outlook on life. An emotionally and verbally abusive relative retaliated after I severed ties. They turned my life completely upside down, costing me hundreds in court fees and months of stress in the process. It only made me more determined than ever to grow as a person. I learned a lot about people, the world and myself that year.

25 things i learned by 25 years old

I wrote this list around the time I turned 25 and I just found it today.

  1. If it seems like it might be shit and it smells like shit, it is indeed shit.
  2. Strength isn't measured by your overall badassery. It's measured by your patience, your willingness to change and your ability to admit when you're wrong.
  3. Don't listen to respond, listen to understand.
  4. The only person you really compete with in life is yourself.
  5. Worry only about your own actions and reactions. Because if you don’t, you'll find that your efforts have been wasted on fixing the wrong person.
  6. It's not your fault if someone else doesn't see the value in you. It never is. It never will be.
  7. Doing things you fear empowers you. Don't let fear hold you back.
  8. Soulmates don't exist. Love at first sight doesn't exist. Love is a choice and when it’s genuine—it feels safe, secure, honest and non-judging. Believing in romantic fantasies makes you vulnerable, so be realistic. Use caution when you fall in love because your heart is so sacred. But don't keep your guard up too high or you'll find yourself emotionally unavailable and ultimately, alone.
  9. Don't waste your time by keeping toxic people in your life. You have one chance to live—enjoy it and enjoy it with the people who genuinely care and cherish you for everything you are and everything you're not.
  10. You can do anything you set your mind to, within reason.
  11. The fundamentals of a successful relationship are respect, support, individualism, communication and honesty.
  12. Don't trust new people too soon and don't be quick to trust the people that seem to trust you too soon.
  13. Trust yourself, first and foremost.
  14. There is absolutely no point in comparing your looks to a retouched model in a beauty magazine. As someone who spent a good amount of time retouching lingerie models for a living, I’m telling you the truth: the model you’re looking at is, in fact, a real person with physical imperfections like everyone else. You just can’t see them.
  15. Once you reach adulthood, life isn't something that just happens to you. Don't blame others or God for your pitfalls. Happiness is a choice. Life is what you make it.
  16. Music is the world’s best form of communication.
  17. Say what you need to say. Don’t beat around the bush. But also, don't forget to stop talking.
  18. Don’t agree to things you don’t have time to do or have no desire to do, out of fear of disappointing someone else.
  19. You don’t always have to wait for the right moment to start something. Just do it already.
  20. The above doesn't apply to risky investments, marriage when your relationship is already dysfunctional or choosing to have a baby when you have yet to support yourself.
  21. Most people aren’t paying attention to the flaws you think you have. They’re too busy worrying about their own perceptions of themselves.
  22. Enjoy every phase of life. You’ll only be this age once.
  23. Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results really is the definition of insanity. Stop making yourself crazy.
  24. There’s no shame in asking for help. Just remember to offer help in return, when the time is right.
  25. Trust in God. He's the greatest comfort you could ever know.
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Hey! I’m Sarah Rose, proud mommy & girlfriend, recovering bulimic and former depressed soul. I’m also the gal who runs Discern, Describe—a personal development & lifestyle blog for girls looking to build confidence, find inner peace and have stronger relationships.

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